In times when political headlines are inescapable, many parents have faced the challenge of helping their children make sense of the electoral developments. Often, their own concern about political outcomes resonates with the anguish of their youngsters. Parents bear the burden of worry for the younger generation, particularly when it comes to consequential events like elections, asking themselves, ‘Why are our children subjected to this all over again?’
Take, for instance, the experience of a parent whose 16-year-old first witnessed the tectonic political shift with the rise of President Donald Trump when she was merely eight years old. For most of her conscious life, she has seen the national discourse dominated by the firm views and poignant rhetoric of President Trump. To the younger generation, the possibility of his reelection could feel like uncanny déjà vu, triggering their fears and uncertainties.
Stoked by differing views and understandings, many of today’s youth, including the children of immigrants, grapple with their feelings about Trump’s policies. These youths represent the most diverse generation in American history—in terms of race, ethnicity, and sexual orientation. They hold vivid memories of his first term and the controversial issues it raised, making them apprehensive about his potential second term.
In addition to political concerns, today’s young people contend with pressing global issues like the pandemic and climate crisis. For them, assurances about their safety and future can seem hollow, especially if their older loved ones succumb to COVID-19, or their reality is threatened by extreme climate events. This, naturally, adds to their stress and forms their perception of the world.
However, it’s essential to remember that these feelings of fear, anger, and disappointment among the youth are not only valid but also understandable. As adults, rather than attempting to assure our children that ‘everything is fine’, we must acknowledge their emotions. It is the responsibility of parents not just to pacify the feelings of their children, but to comfort them in their distress and assure them that they are not alone in their journey.
In conversations about the election, it’s important for adults to validate the emotions of our young ones. Telling them plainly, ‘It’s okay to feel upset and scared’, can provide comfort. Reaffirming our love and assuring them of their safety is a crucial responsibility, as is emphasizing the impact they can make by caring for others and promoting safety in their circles.
Even amid the harsh realities of the world, we must not shy away from unveiling the truth to our children. Protection from calamities isn’t about denying their possibility, but about preparing youngsters to navigate the world as it is. This requires fostering their understanding and resilience without compromising on hope and optimism.
Recognizing the wisdom and strength in our children is another important aspect. For instance, if a child has shown sound judgment, express admiration for her ability to understand the world. Compliment her for choosing the right friends, sticking to her values, and dedicating herself to justice.
One effective way to soothe electoral distress is by reminding children about the supportive, well-intentioned people around them—people they chose to be connected with. As they grow older, they’ll have the power to continue choosing the associations they believe in. No political force can deprive them of this freedom.
Turning to our lineage can also offer solace during hard times. Our forebears faced numerous adversities, yet they persisted, thereby ensuring our existence. Sharing this perspective isn’t about belittling current troubles, but about helping children perceive the larger continuum of struggle and survival. This could potentially be comforting and enlightening to them.
At any age, engaging in local community work that aligns with one’s values can foster a sense of purpose and power. Helping others, either through volunteer efforts or mutually supportive endeavors, could fill youth and adults alike with a sense of connection and agency, dispelling feelings of helplessness.
Another piece of practical advice to consider is curtailing the constant exposure to the news. In the modern age, our smartphones are incessant conduits of both good and bad news. It is essential to teach children that staying informed doesn’t equate to constantly consuming every piece of news, which could be distressing.
An important tenet of parental advice is reminding children that life is a marathon, not a sprint. The world needs them just as much as they need each other, and thus, self-care becomes exceptionally important. By setting a good example in taking care of ourselves, we pass on this wisdom to them for their wellbeing.
The parent-child conversation should also convey admiration for the young ones are growing into. During times of instability and fear, reminding them that they are seen and loved can contribute enormously to their emotional well-being.
Lastly, a child’s distress over social issues shouldn’t only be seen as a cause of parental concern; it should also be a sign of their empathy and engagement with the world. Supporting and encouraging such feelings can help build their faith in themselves and firm up their commitment to what they know and believe in.